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HUMANNESS, 11
WE, HUMANS ARE NOT MEANT TO BE MEASURED.
We are graded, judged, appraised. Poof, we lose our sparkle.
Normalizing a common mindset
We all feel it, the pit in our stomach when we are being measured. Different causes, same effect - test anxiety, performance pressure, trying to fit in, keeping up with the Joneses, getting the look from special others, that sense of being talked about when you are not around, not feeling good enough, gotta ace it expectations, A-listers mentality, the critics voice inside our heads.
Intentionally written in a non-blaming, non-shaming style
For almost all of us, the struggle is real. We have our creative ways to dodge judgment and sidestep its blow. We may goody-two-shoes to cruise below the radar. Or bully up to become the one that gives the blow. Or rebel with serious risks of becoming social outcasts. Dodge, we do.
Spotlighting subconscious narratives that set us up to unhuman
We all yearn. To be ourselves without any compares or contrasts. We all crave. For a kind, non-judging voice to come into our lives. We all know. We are not meant to be measured. We are meant to be ourselves. We are meant to do our thing. We are meant to shine our light.
Perspectives to ease the reader out of head-space and into heart-space
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Yet we are so far off from where we are meant to be. We still find ourselves tripping over measures and judgments. And we are definitely not the only ones. We are many.
Suggested u-turns in perspective
Often, those few we admire are those who stayed true to their shine. Not their measure. We can mirror them - own our shine, value our shine, share our shine, celebrate our shine. We can encourage and support others' shine. That may be enough. We all can then be human, human beyond measure.
About 400 words per chapter, grade 4 reading level
Achieve results using humanness
Although there are many books and articles to read on the whys and hows of this human principle, I invite you to have your first-hand experience of how human big trigger-big emotions work.
Empowering seeds for reflection and action
- Try giving yourself a penny every time you judge. Each time that you compare or contrast someone. Each time you measure the worth of someone. Include all the times you judge yourself too.
- Say it out loud, at least once, to someone 'I'm not judging you today'. Did they smile? Did they shine?
- Try gifting yourself a voucher that says, 'I'm not measuring you today.' Be your kind, non-judging voice.
A Ritual for Inner Wellness
“I’m surprised how when something embeds, how easy it feels and how simple it is to explain, share and grow. Rereading it is powerful.”
Chapters are intentionally non-sequential.
- Shuffle: Pick a chapter that speaks to you today.
- Read: Start where you are, choose what you can, grow what you have.
- Display: Prop-up the chapter in the easel stand for contemplation.
- Share: Use the chapters to articulate your humanness.
- Gift: Bring ease to others.
